Dating apps have had their moment
Welcome to The List. Welcome to a better dating experience.
We’re Esha and Ilana, creators of The List, a curated group of people who want to meet other intentional, emotionally-aware people to connect with, to date, or for something more meaningful.
These days, we can live our life however we want. There are no “shoulds'“ and love and relationships are changing all the time. Despite that connection and intimacy is something many of us want - so why does it seem so hard to find?
People around you say the same thing: “I don’t know anyone who’s single.” You might even brave a singles event, but they’re often a disappointing, strange mish-mash. And the apps? Don’t get us started on the apps.
Let us tell you an exciting secret: there are plenty of amazing people for you to meet. And we’re here to help you do that in a way that builds you up, and really adds to your life.
Curious? Click below or keep scrolling.
What you get on The List
Get matched with people you’d actually want to meet in real life (we believe in quality, not quantity)
Socialise with people you’d actually be friends with (or more) at small, curated events that don’t feel forced
Advice from a place of genuine care (constructive, objective, and rooted in real-world experience + relationship psychology)
“I’ve gotten a confidence boost, and it’s given me the push to enjoy dating again. The matches are made with human intelligence, so the connections are deeper and conversations easier. Definitely worth it.”
— Kristian, 39
Date in a way that actually feels good
We all want to meet people without really trying. But dating has changed, and these days, people aren’t meeting through friends or work in quite the same way.
So, people turn to apps…but even though 3 million Australians are on a dating app, they don’t seem to be working.
The problem isn’t that there aren’t any single people. It’s that you juggle a full life, you’re siloed in to existing social groups, and you’re waiting for a chance encounter to blow your socks off. Then, when you do meet that person, it’s not always easy to navigate your way to an established relationship.
It can all seem a bit too hard.
It’s doesn’t have to be - and we’re here to help with both sides of the equation: meeting amazing people and building connection.
The List is built through the network effect, and we take our time to curate the people who join, because we truly want it to feel special.
Unlike traditional matchmakers or apps - you don’t get dating burnout because finding love isn’t a numbers game. It’s about getting to know yourself on a deeper level and finding joy in the process.
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Community is where magic happens
The List is not a solution for the masses, because love can’t be solved by an algorithm.
We limit the number of people on The List, because it’s not just a matchmaking service, it’s a community.
We match people to other people on The List, but since there is constant rotation, it’s always a mix of old and new.
We also augment our matchmaking with relaxed, enjoyable events - which are nothing like the singles events out there. These events include a small number of curated List members (or Listlings, as we call them), as well as some wildcards and non-single people to create a relaxed, social vibe.
The idea of these events is to for you to feel part of a community of like-minded, interesting people. You may spark with someone at an event, and if not, you might make some new friends and connections.
You might find love…or something you haven’t even imagined! The events will be different every time, and sometimes we may even ask you to invite a friend.
Ultimately, we believe that love and connection - in all its forms - has always been found through our communities.